It’s Never Easy

Posted On December 31, 2007

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I can’t get used to saying “goodbye.” The funeral for my friend Kim was no different. Heart wrenching, emotional, filled with tears — but also laughter and a chance to reminisce with friends.

It’s hard to believe that I met Kim only last year, at our Junior League’s retreat for new members in August 2006. She had that affect on people, though: You couldn’t help but feel as if you had known her forever.

Kim had the ability to walk into a room and immediately be noticed, not because of anything she did so much as this incredible charisma. Spunky, sassy, sweet, smart, spirited. She was all these things and so much more. She made me feel special, included, important to someone other than a 3-year-old with a snotty face.

During her standing-room only funeral, her husband gave the most beautiful eulogy I think I’ve ever heard. At times funny — and always touching — he told the tearful crowd of friends and family not to ask “why?” but instead to ask “what?” What had Kim taught us?

I’ve thought a lot about that, what I learned from my sweet friend. Kim taught me that it’s OK to have fun — and that I should probably do it more often. To stand up for myself and for what’s right. To let the people you love know how much they mean to you. And to do it all with style.

My life has been made better for knowing Kim, if only for a little while. She may be gone, but never forgotten.


9 Responses to “It’s Never Easy”

  1. Megan

    I’m sorry for your loss. She sounds like a woman worth the knowing, and the world better for having her here.

  2. Krista

    It’s never easy to lose one you love…but at such a young age and so close makes it that much more heart wrenching. Her Hubby sounds like a wonderful man. Thank you for sharing Mary.

  3. thedomesticdiva

    Mary…how sad to lose a friend…but it’s so important you remember what she taught you.

    May the memories of your friend always bring a smile to your face.

    With friendship,

  4. Cathy

    I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. It sounds like she lived life well and will be remembered for that. Take care!

  5. Kuky

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend. It’s so shocking to hear that someone so young has died. You’ve remembered her here beautifully.

  6. Erica

    I’m so sorry for your loss Mary. 😦 (((HUGS))) my friend.

  7. missy

    wow. it’s breathtaking…. It’s hard to read even though I don’t know her. I wish her family and friends (including you) all of the best during these difficult times 😦 I just don’t even know what else to say. It’s aweful.

  8. Jhoni

    I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers, along with her family.

  9. Jessica

    So sorry to hear about Kim. Sounds like she served her purpose in your life. You’re in my thoughts.

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